I seek your wise counsel on a matter of some delicacy. Sometimes when I am dancing, I get so swept up in the music that I'll start singing out loud or whistling or humming. Do you find my unbridled exuberance charming and endearing or distracting, irritating and a real turn-off? If the latter, is it possible that subconsciously you are jealous of my relationship with the music leaving you the odd one out in a dance triangle? Presume in your response I am an otherwise normal human being and decent leader.
Thank you for your guidance!
Singing your praises,
NoNameJiver
steels self for new wave of parody threads
Is that all there is, is that all there is?
If that's all there is my friends, then let's keep dancing
(from Peggy Lee song)
Originally posted Friday, September 10, 2010 (1 year ago)
Sometimes it is endearing, and sometimes it is annoying! It is endearing if you do it in a cute manner, not loudly, and not off key. Annoying if it is the opposite. Or if you do it for the whole song.
Personally, I scat along with the music when I get into it, so perhaps that annoys people. But, I don't really care, because I am not doing it loudly and it makes it more fun for me.
I'd rather have someone like you than a mr. serious-pants with a stick up their rear.
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Originally posted Monday, September 13, 2010 (1 year ago)
I think being musical with your vocal chords or mouth is OK as long as it is consistent with how you are being musical with the rest of your body (which, of course, should be musical with the, you know, music). The partner has to follow you in many ways and if there is are disconnections within your lead, there will be disconnection from your follower.
I think it's fine as long as it's clear that you're just enjoying the music. Please don't act out the lyrics or make a big show of singing or synching along. Unless the partner thinks everything you do is charming or hilarious -- and there's a very small chance of that, generally -- don't overwork your shared dance time. I almost always find it disturbing when a partner is singing a song at me, even when I like the guy OK.
Just thought of a couple caveats: Whistling could be irritating... you don't know how everyone's ears work. Also, if you are doing any kind of close dancing, it could be a little intrusive to be singing or humming directly in her ear. Open or regular closed lindy position puts more space between your mouth and her ears, so that's different.
I think it's the fussy follow indeed who would frown on vocalizing in general -- and maybe that's not the type you could please regardless what you did.
Quote Whistling could be irritating... you don't know how everyone's ears work.
Well, you don't know how everyone's anything works. Why only consider their ears?
It's one thing to be considerate, but it reaches its limits of reasonable pretty quickly. At some point it's better to realize that everything is going to upset someone, somewhere, and that it's not your job to water down yourself to appease any possible outliners. You can't be exceptional if you're unwilling to upset a few exceptions.
I sometimes wear cologne, despite the fact I know not everyone will like the scent and some are even allergic. At the end of the day it's just like everything else; It'll delight some people and repel others. If I happen to audibly sing or scat to a song while dancing you'll either like it, hate it, or not care. Either way, what you think of me is hardly any of my business.
If you want to sing, scat, whistle, tap dance, act out lyrics, whatever, feel free just understand that you're bound to turn someone off at some point by doing so, and that that is just fine: If they don't like it it's their problem, not yours.
Originally posted Monday, September 13, 2010 (1 year ago)
I've gotten glared at for singing, but not for humming. I can get silly and act some stuff out, but I've never gotten flak for it. Sometimes I "tch tch tch" with the music, but it's so quiet I don't think anyone has ever heard it.
For LADIES ONLY: A Matter of Etiquette
Dearest Ladies and Followers,
I seek your wise counsel on a matter of some delicacy. Sometimes when I am dancing, I get so swept up in the music that I'll start singing out loud or whistling or humming. Do you find my unbridled exuberance charming and endearing or distracting, irritating and a real turn-off? If the latter, is it possible that subconsciously you are jealous of my relationship with the music leaving you the odd one out in a dance triangle? Presume in your response I am an otherwise normal human being and decent leader.
Thank you for your guidance!
Singing your praises,
NoNameJiver
steels self for new wave of parody threads
Is that all there is, is that all there is? If that's all there is my friends, then let's keep dancing (from Peggy Lee song)
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Sometimes it is endearing, and sometimes it is annoying! It is endearing if you do it in a cute manner, not loudly, and not off key. Annoying if it is the opposite. Or if you do it for the whole song.
Personally, I scat along with the music when I get into it, so perhaps that annoys people. But, I don't really care, because I am not doing it loudly and it makes it more fun for me.
I'd rather have someone like you than a mr. serious-pants with a stick up their rear.
follow my adventures at www.AppalachianToAlpine.blogspot.com!
I think being musical with your vocal chords or mouth is OK as long as it is consistent with how you are being musical with the rest of your body (which, of course, should be musical with the, you know, music). The partner has to follow you in many ways and if there is are disconnections within your lead, there will be disconnection from your follower.
I think it's fine as long as it's clear that you're just enjoying the music. Please don't act out the lyrics or make a big show of singing or synching along. Unless the partner thinks everything you do is charming or hilarious -- and there's a very small chance of that, generally -- don't overwork your shared dance time. I almost always find it disturbing when a partner is singing a song at me, even when I like the guy OK.
Just thought of a couple caveats: Whistling could be irritating... you don't know how everyone's ears work. Also, if you are doing any kind of close dancing, it could be a little intrusive to be singing or humming directly in her ear. Open or regular closed lindy position puts more space between your mouth and her ears, so that's different.
I think it's the fussy follow indeed who would frown on vocalizing in general -- and maybe that's not the type you could please regardless what you did.
Please keep having fun. :D
Why not? http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EqVYEiRpYRE
Well, you don't know how everyone's anything works. Why only consider their ears?
It's one thing to be considerate, but it reaches its limits of reasonable pretty quickly. At some point it's better to realize that everything is going to upset someone, somewhere, and that it's not your job to water down yourself to appease any possible outliners. You can't be exceptional if you're unwilling to upset a few exceptions.
I sometimes wear cologne, despite the fact I know not everyone will like the scent and some are even allergic. At the end of the day it's just like everything else; It'll delight some people and repel others. If I happen to audibly sing or scat to a song while dancing you'll either like it, hate it, or not care. Either way, what you think of me is hardly any of my business.
If you want to sing, scat, whistle, tap dance, act out lyrics, whatever, feel free just understand that you're bound to turn someone off at some point by doing so, and that that is just fine: If they don't like it it's their problem, not yours.
I've gotten glared at for singing, but not for humming. I can get silly and act some stuff out, but I've never gotten flak for it. Sometimes I "tch tch tch" with the music, but it's so quiet I don't think anyone has ever heard it.
Yeah! What Atalanta said. Go out and have fun!
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