Quoted from "Atalanta"
Oh, no worries. Rather than make a sandwich in public, we'll be taking Julius home with us. We'll take care of business at Casa Casey... see? I'm no hypocrite. :P (kidding! i kid because i love!!)

Don't forget to mention blues dancing and the after party.

Kalman

Is she laughing?

And what was Mihai smoking?

Kalman

Quoted from "orbitkitty"
I I personally don't see the relationship between "bad" blues dancing and debauchery. Even the pump and grind kind, the x-rated kind. I don't know much about blues dancing, so I'm sure I do the "nasty" variety, but I do know 99 of the time I'm not thinking about sex. Ask me about the other 1 another time... I went to my first afterhours party this weekend in Dallas, and I drank and danced a lot...with girls, with guys, by myself, with a wall...who knows? I was feeling the music...it was good. Now what anyone else thought about it is another story, but I'm not responsible for that.

I only thought you were a great dancer, really. I got the majority of dances with you there so I should know. I just loved your style babe.

I just read this entire thing from 1-7 so it's time to put my .02 in I started blues dancing at 16 while illegally working in my cousin's juke joint in a small town in OK. The ladies there would grab me and dance and my cousin said just go with it. Well, I didn't like it. Fast forward to last year and LOLX. There was more debauchery than at one of Caligula's parties. After that, when I went out of town and danced people would ask where I was from and I reply Tulsa. An immediate response was "did you go to Your exchange?". That actually made me upset that one event overshadowed the members and the reputation of the scene. Granted we cannot change the past, LOLX has been done. But Danny is right, we need to make this fun and enjoyable again for those who were turned off by the latter. I might be a newbie to this whole "lindy Lovin'" But I love to Lindy and I now really love to blues. so can we find a common ground?

Oh, my word!! :oops:

Is it hot in here or what!!!! :D

Mihai definitely looks like he's on something.

Tina 8)

Let he who is without blues cast the first b!tch slap...

Quoted from "Atalanta"
oh dear, the ghost of lindygras past! The one photograph of my one public smooch during an exchange. I am fully chastised. :P This was during the extremely unofficial late-Sunday-night drunken marauding through the French Quarter. See, i'm not totally uptight. :) It was a spontaneous lighthearted moment... yes, we are both laughing, and yes, Mihai's face is very funny. :oops: alcohol is de debol. and that's all i've got to say about that.

One thing to point out there - they weren't even dancing either ...

fascinating how the wheel turns... just because you saw desperation, and emptiness doesn't mean it was actually there, nor that any/everyone there felt the same or that any of those individuals ever will "grow out of it" as you so patronizingly put it. be careful, chef. your epiphany is only your own perception, and you should remember and respect that.

Quoted from "LindyChef"
blah blah blah...

Look. In. The. Mirror.

As someone who has thrown some of the parties you are bemoaning, I rank you as the number one opportunistic ass-grabber in attendance.

Kalman

Quoted from "LindyChef"
I have yet to see someone in, say, their late 40's doing body shots at an after hours party at an exchange ...

at the mermaid parade fundraiser, you woul have seen that. but it wasn't an after hours party at an exchange, it wasn't even after hours! it was quite theatrical, done to to raise money and less "let's get wasted."

hehe, "justified debauchery."8)

at any rate, seems as if a few people have had a few "this sh t isnt' for me anymore" moments. i've been there, for sure. but i still like being theatrical from time to time. i mean, after all, i had a party where people got nekkid! it was for art...er..."justified nudity"!

it's hard not to judge those that may be going through a phase or taking part in things that arenn't for you anymore. it's surely valid, and dare i say necessary for growth to take your perceptions and figure out what your reactions mean to you and for you, especially in terms of how you "define" yourself in a social context.

ok back to my coffee.

sj

Quoted from "LindyChef"

Quoted from "mousethief"
As someone who has thrown some of the parties you are bemoaning, I rank you as the number one opportunistic ass-grabber in attendance. Kalman

I find your inflexibility frustrating Kalman ... I have never hosted a party at an exchange or afterhours event. Participated in, of course, but never hosted. And if you just want to pigeonhole me into a neat little box in your mind, fine, that's your perogative. People can change, and if you think someone can't, then I don't know what to tell you.

Please note the above highlights.

I find your inability to accurately read my post frustrating. Considering the threads you started on Yehoodi...

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ul> Need a vacation from lindy? I'm taking one So, how many swing dancers have you kissed? I'm a nice guy. Please sleep with me. Anybody? Please?! Take Me to a Strip Club at Lindy Gras So, (hypothetically) how long do you wait? So there's no magic p ssy ... is there a magic p nis? Lindy Girls Gone Wild: 2004 Edition [/list:u:70c0131a17]

... and the general content of your posts in other threads, I'd say you crafted a nice little box for yourself.

And yes, I'm well aware of my own topics. Did the search myself.

Kalman

Martin, I'm happy for you. I knew you before you 'went wild' and like that you've swung back the other way somewhat. I'm sure your gorgeous gal appreciates it, too.

And people, I'm sure we all have our fair share of tales we could spill from after-hours parties, but let's NOT. People have to go through stuff. People are funny that way. I now know several dancers that are desperately trying to get away from the bad reps they got by going crazy at one or more of these parties. I'm not even one of them, and yet I still think it's unfair to brand them with a scarlet letter A. This isn't the Salem Witch Trials era. Let it go, please.

Quoted from "LilLindyHopper"
And people, I'm sure we all have our fair share of tales we could spill from after-hours parties, but let's NOT. People have to go through stuff. People are funny that way. I now know several dancers that are desperately trying to get away from the bad reps they got by going crazy at one or more of these parties. I'm not even one of them, and yet I still think it's unfair to brand them with a scarlet letter A. This isn't the Salem Witch Trials era. Let it go, please.

Thank you, thank you, thank you for your voice of reason. I hope everyone could follow this example.

Tina 8)

Quoted from "LindyChef"
Hmm ... In any case, I think that's where a lot of the debauchery comes from in exchange-land ... people are trying to fill their lives with meaning and physical connections seem to be a easy way to do that ... I would hope that people would grow out of it ...

That has a lot of truth. It is like drinking Coke when you are thirsty. Feels great at the moment, nothing like it... however, leaves just as thirsty if not more so afterward.

So the solution is to keep drinking Coke until you find an owasis of water. (which is what I am doing)

Quoted from "mousethief"
Well, you can prove me wrong then, if'n you want. It's not that I don't believe people cannot change, I just don't believe it yet. Kalman

Some people won't...ever. You can witness it right here on Yehoodi (darnit CHRIS!!!), but I've thankfully been proven wrong and have some hope. And now...