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I feel the line between blues dancing and something more is getting blurred. You meet someone attractive and interesting, ask them to dance, and have an amazing blues dance with them. Sometimes you think it might be more than a dance, alas, it's not. Besides asking "...What was that?" How else can one tell? There is the vibe, of course, but that can be ambiguous. What do you do to know whether you and that cute person you just danced with just danced rather than something else?
Discuss, discuss.
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Some gals really throw the sexual vibe out there. A good way is to see them dance with a few other guys, if it looks just as intense as the dances she has with you, there you go. Conversation helps measure where things are.
Quoted from "dontmeanathing" A good way is to see them dance with a few other guys, if it looks just as intense as the dances she has with you, there you go.
that's a good point! of course, she could just be a slut...
Well, I think that's a tricky situation too. The way I read if a guy likes me in "that way" is if he asks me to dance 2 or three in a row, and doesn't seem to want to let me go... It's a fine line between "creepy and acceptable". :P
Same way with me, if I "like" a guy, I might not want to let him go after only one dance. Now this does not apply if the first dance was started in the middle of a song and was really brief.
I can crush on a guy pretty easily if we have a really good blues connection. :oops:
Unless there's post dance follow up, it's nothing personal. Play-acting is part of dancing too-- some leads/follows and songs seem to call for hamming it up, some for playing the hot sexy card.
If you're dancing real blues dances, you have about as much of a chance of wondering if there was something more to it as you would dancing lindy hop. :-P
Does anyone else get just a little bit creeped out if your partner keeps making sound effects. A "yeah baby" here and there is awesome, but I've felt straight-up violated and wanted to call the automated blues molestor hotline when someone starts with the moans.
"Hello and thank you for calling the blues molestor hotline. If you know the name of your molestor push 1. To choose from a list of molestors push 2. If you are the molestor push 3..."
"Yeah Baby?" Nice...you must be fun to dance with!
I can't imagine someone giving sound effects/commentary during the
dance no matter if it's lindy or blues. I've heard grunts and heavy breathing
during both, but it's still kind of odd.
Doesn't matter - blues, tango, salsa, lindy...it's either really funny (it would
be funny if I knew the person well), or really strange. Still that's a bit much...
Quoted from "goofball" Does anyone else get just a little bit creeped out if your partner keeps making sound effects. A "yeah baby" here and there is awesome, but I've felt straight-up violated and wanted to call the automated blues molestor hotline when someone starts with the moans.
"Hello and thank you for calling the blues molestor hotline. If you know the name of your molestor push 1. To choose from a list of molestors push 2. If you are the molestor push 3..."
You are a weird, weird lady. And that's saying a lot coming from me!
Quoted from "goofball" Does anyone else get just a little bit creeped out if your partner keeps making sound effects. A "yeah baby" here and there is awesome, but I've felt straight-up violated and wanted to call the automated blues molestor hotline when someone starts with the moans.
"Hello and thank you for calling the blues molestor hotline. If you know the name of your molestor push 1. To choose from a list of molestors push 2. If you are the molestor push 3..."
You are a weird, weird lady. And that's saying a lot coming from me!
I've had several blues dances, especially when I first started, with guys who would turn on the "emotional connection" at the beginning of the dance and switch it off at the end. It bugged me a lot, since it seemed manipulative and faked. When we had a couple of classes on developing emotional connection during the dance, I figured that's where it was coming from. If I barely know someone's name, I don't want him Vulcan mind-melding at me. :pukeymae: If anyone seems like he's trying for that type of "connection" (even without doing anything physically out of line), I back off, and that usually is enough to discourage him. Since I'm in a relationship now, even if it were genuine instead of the instant-oatmeal chemistry, I still don't want to go there.
I don't know if they're still doing those kinds of classes, this started 2 years ago, and was still happening last year. I haven't been going dancing as much since I got into my current relationship - he doesn't have any objections, but I just don't have as much time. Anyway, even if they don't call it "emotional connection" that feeling of them turning on the sexual/emotional vibes or "you're my soulmate for the next 3 1/2 minutes" is disconcerting, and I assumed that was what the OP was referring to.
I'll take plain old dance chemistry, thanks. :) There are sometimes dancers your personality just clicks with. They're the ones that, lindy, tango, blues, salsa, polka, whatever, you always end up having the most fun with because your personalities and styles of dancing are compatible. There's nothing creepy about that.
But the only person I really want to have a deep, fraught emotional connection with PERIOD is my husband, but especially on the dance floor. I'd rather see more people connect with the music (and by that I mean actually listen to it and dance appropriately to it) than with each other. :-P
Anyway, this is a parody thread and I'm sure our very serious comments will be ridden out of town on a rail.
Are We Just Blues Dancing?
NuitsBlanches
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I feel the line between blues dancing and something more is getting blurred. You meet someone attractive and interesting, ask them to dance, and have an amazing blues dance with them. Sometimes you think it might be more than a dance, alas, it's not. Besides asking "...What was that?" How else can one tell? There is the vibe, of course, but that can be ambiguous. What do you do to know whether you and that cute person you just danced with just danced rather than something else?
Discuss, discuss.
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SHORTYJOY
Get a room. (just kidding)
If you have to ask-- she's probably not feeling what you are feeling.
SliceyJ
Just ask outright:
Did we just [bleep]?
Be prepared for any answer. But at least you will know.
dontmeanathing
Some gals really throw the sexual vibe out there. A good way is to see them dance with a few other guys, if it looks just as intense as the dances she has with you, there you go. Conversation helps measure where things are.
freestyle trombonist
Beckto
I hate "blues dancing."
Jerry
actually Celia hates it too but I force her to go and and dance with me like that in public. :-)
Martini Slayer
Well, I think that's a tricky situation too. The way I read if a guy likes me in "that way" is if he asks me to dance 2 or three in a row, and doesn't seem to want to let me go... It's a fine line between "creepy and acceptable". :P
Same way with me, if I "like" a guy, I might not want to let him go after only one dance. Now this does not apply if the first dance was started in the middle of a song and was really brief.
I can crush on a guy pretty easily if we have a really good blues connection. :oops:
dennisrodman
and it helps if they're latin. :)
deliciousblues
Unless there's post dance follow up, it's nothing personal. Play-acting is part of dancing too-- some leads/follows and songs seem to call for hamming it up, some for playing the hot sexy card.
Beckto
...[sigh]... and I guess it's a good sign if your jaw is sore the next morning...
[sigh]...
Summer Solstice Girl
I just had some really intense blues dances (with the same guy) at a late night party last night.
Wow! my legs are still wobbly...
TurboSwing
Yes, you're just blues dancing.
Dr. Feelgood
Doesn't this stuff just apply to dancing in general? Isn't a good flirt a good
flirt just on general principal?
pill_popper
It was an awesome party, wasn't it? :wink:
you just got to listen to the music, 'cause it's talkin' to you man! -frankie
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OpeningMinds
I would've thought so ... :roll:
"Change your thoughts, and you change your world" - Norman Vincent Peale.
redbean
If you're dancing real blues dances, you have about as much of a chance of wondering if there was something more to it as you would dancing lindy hop. :-P
Summer Solstice Girl
And how!!!!
I have to admit I was ready for something else... But! the guy ended up making out with some other girl :shrug:
Beckto
As Dawn Hampton said to me one day while we were being all chummy and like TOT best friends... s
Swing dancing is the safest sex around!
Chivalrous
Especially if it's from getting punched.
Also, watch out for "chapstick"...
Martinis do not contain vodka. —Rachel Maddow
goofball
Does anyone else get just a little bit creeped out if your partner keeps making sound effects. A "yeah baby" here and there is awesome, but I've felt straight-up violated and wanted to call the automated blues molestor hotline when someone starts with the moans.
"Hello and thank you for calling the blues molestor hotline. If you know the name of your molestor push 1. To choose from a list of molestors push 2. If you are the molestor push 3..."
Dr. Feelgood
"Yeah Baby?" Nice...you must be fun to dance with!
I can't imagine someone giving sound effects/commentary during the
dance no matter if it's lindy or blues. I've heard grunts and heavy breathing
during both, but it's still kind of odd.
Doesn't matter - blues, tango, salsa, lindy...it's either really funny (it would
be funny if I knew the person well), or really strange. Still that's a bit much...
Beckto
You are a weird, weird lady. And that's saying a lot coming from me!
HIYO!
goofball
We should run away together...
Beckto
Yes... yes, maybe we should.
Whisper
I've had several blues dances, especially when I first started, with guys who would turn on the "emotional connection" at the beginning of the dance and switch it off at the end. It bugged me a lot, since it seemed manipulative and faked. When we had a couple of classes on developing emotional connection during the dance, I figured that's where it was coming from. If I barely know someone's name, I don't want him Vulcan mind-melding at me. :pukeymae: If anyone seems like he's trying for that type of "connection" (even without doing anything physically out of line), I back off, and that usually is enough to discourage him. Since I'm in a relationship now, even if it were genuine instead of the instant-oatmeal chemistry, I still don't want to go there.
Dr. Feelgood
That "emotional connection" didn't even make sense, I don't even think
anyone is talking that up any longer. Ridiculous.
Whisper
I don't know if they're still doing those kinds of classes, this started 2 years ago, and was still happening last year. I haven't been going dancing as much since I got into my current relationship - he doesn't have any objections, but I just don't have as much time. Anyway, even if they don't call it "emotional connection" that feeling of them turning on the sexual/emotional vibes or "you're my soulmate for the next 3 1/2 minutes" is disconcerting, and I assumed that was what the OP was referring to.
redbean
I agree, Whisper. That's crap and I hate it. :-P
I'll take plain old dance chemistry, thanks. :) There are sometimes dancers your personality just clicks with. They're the ones that, lindy, tango, blues, salsa, polka, whatever, you always end up having the most fun with because your personalities and styles of dancing are compatible. There's nothing creepy about that.
But the only person I really want to have a deep, fraught emotional connection with PERIOD is my husband, but especially on the dance floor. I'd rather see more people connect with the music (and by that I mean actually listen to it and dance appropriately to it) than with each other. :-P
Anyway, this is a parody thread and I'm sure our very serious comments will be ridden out of town on a rail.
Beckto
Oh. My. God.
I REALLY hate "blues dancing" now. What a bunch of crap.
Keither
That's okay, Beckto. "Blues dancing" hates you, too.
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